With or Without You


It’s So Hard To Say Goodbye To Yesterday

Attrition. Forced or voluntary it’s never fun. (Unless we’re talking about Johnny down in Accounting. In which case – good! They’re not your cookies, Johnny!) At LivingSocial our coworkers are a major reason why we work here. They are a fun, energetic, and brilliant bunch. You know what I’m talking about, I’m sure your company is the same way. So when a beloved member of the team leaves it can send you on an emotional rollercoaster where you’re happy they are getting this new opportunity but they did all that work, how will you ever replace them! And they were so funny, you’re just going to miss them so much! Trust me, I understand. But being able to work without someone is just as important as being able to work with them.

On the business side make sure you know what they do. You may think you know but verify. You could discover they were manually running an important script everyday. Or handling a business relationship you knew nothing about. Maybe they have the only login to your AWS account. You don’t want to find out about these things after they are gone. Also, don’t be scared that you’ll suddenly be doing twice the work. While it’s possible sometimes you can decide to just do less with less.

Handling the personal side, perhaps surprisingly, is going to be harder. You need to prepare yourself to put in some legitimate leg work if you want to remain in touch with this person. Remember – they aren’t dead, you just won’t be seeing them every day. It’s not going to be as easy to chat now so don’t be lazy. Periodically email or IM them to say hi and ask about the new venture. Become friends on Facebook (or that other currently hot social media site you both frequent). Set up a lunch or happy hour. While you’re at it why not make it a regular thing? If you are truly going to miss this person, show it – put in the work and stay connected.

Some of my best friends are former coworkers. We get our families together, celebrate birthdays, and have the occasional lunch. Sometimes we even get each other jobs and then gasp we’re not former coworkers anymore! We put forth the effort and it’s paid off in spades.

So it’s alright to cry but don’t stop believing – their departure doesn’t have to be the end.